what is best for the children... This is a statement heard far too often in the western world as the secular world seeks to continue their attacks on God's institutions by focusing their energies on a small part of socciety.  It is called a divide and conquer menatality and the secular world looks to control the family by using children as the bait.  Far too often we hear of family being split up by judges, children services and other groups, merely because they do not like the way parents are raisng their children. Sometimes they are right but the majority of times they are not and these people do far more damage tothe family than anyone else could do and this is where the church needs to step in and show the world that there is a better way to handle domestic problems.  it cannot shift the responsibility to the unsaved for the unsaved does not have God's interests in mind just their own. Nor can the church support programs created by the secular world for such ways are not bringing glory to God nor will have God's ways or goals as part of the equation.  God does not share glory and His ways are not the world's and the church needs to start finding and implementing what He wants instead of referring people to the secular alternatives.  How can the church bring salvation to the world when it turns people away and refers them to the exact same philosophies many are trying to escape? The church cannot afford to work hand in hand with the secular world as partnership with the world is not what God says to do.  He calls people OUT of the world to His ways, His life, His rules and to turn around and ignore that gesture shows that the church is ignoring what God wants while showing they prefer the world's strategies. The church is in 'competition' with the world as souls are at stake and to fail to provide God's solution tells the unsaved that there is nothing for them in the church. How much money has been lost to the banks in interest and principle payments on over-extravegant constructed buildings,which could have been used to set up God based programs to help those in need?  The building fad that has been going on for the past 3 decades shows that the church favors the wrong ideas in attracting people to its message, just like the church jumping on the 'what is best for the children' bandwagon. That is the world's idea but the church already knows what is best for the children--focusing on the family. keeping the family intact and focused on God is what is best for the children.  parents are charged with raising, educating, looking after their children, etc. and the church needs to support that plan not undermine it by going to the world's ways.  The church needs to present God's viewpoint all the time and they need to show that God cares for if they don't, NO ONE ELSE WILL. So the secular world has its programs but the church needs to do it better and within  God's plans so the world will see God in action and experience the love and forgiveness He has.  The only way for the world to experience the God is through those who say they follow Him. Not everyone will get a Damasus road experience like Paul, non-believers need to experience from other people, those who say they believe in Jesus. What is best for the children?  The church who helps the parents maintain their families and they (the church) do it God's way.  How else will the world know if the church does not do it?