‘I am not dead…’   I have heard this statement used by married Christian men as the ogle a woman’s body who is not their wife.  It is used to justify their gawking and demonstrates a weakness that they have not conquered.   This kind of behavior is known to be part of the Christian life and I have been aware that some Christian men are worse in their attitude and treatment of women than their non-religious counterparts.  This is not good as men have a responsibility given to them by Christ.  To love their wives as Christ loves the church and we do not see Christ ogling alternative faiths while fulfilling some duty to His followers.   That is just one directive given by God to men, and another in Hebrews 13:5 tells us ‘to be content with what we have’.  That verse does not exclude wives and men need to realize that they need to be content with the body and personality of the woman they married and are not free to scope out other women.   Such thinking is of the world and Christians are taught to not follow after the world’s ways for it leads to destruction and men’s wandering eye can and will lead to the destruction of their marriage and family.  The wife may not leave but the love, the testimony and reputation will disintegrate, leaving that family useless for God’s work, creating a stumbling block & making it difficult to win others for Christ.   If the believer cannot live by the word of God how can they expect to win souls for God?  Family life is governed by God and we have clear teachings on how to conduct ourselves with our families and those not our spouses.  If we fail to follow God’s word on the subject then we are opening the door for sin to enter and work its evil ways in the lives of all involved.   Men are given a big responsibility by God and their actions influence more than they realize and they must, as leaders of the family, get their desires under control and in line with God’s word.  One cannot use the idea of ‘interpretation’ as an excuse nor justification to continue to practice that which is damaging to their wives and family.   Even flirting can open the door for the devil to get in and corrupt what God has created to be beautiful and use that act to persuade the non-believer that Christ and His ways are not worth following.   There is a bigger picture here than just some good clean fun.  We believers are part of a new kingdom and all of our actions are observed and when they are not in line with what the observer perceives God word to be, then we have lost a soul for eternity.  One may not think so but take a look at the situation from Christ’s perspective and see how ‘innocent’ acts can bring ruin and devastation.   Husbands need to be strong against sin and worldly ways, their wives and children are counting on it and if the man strays how can they expect their families to stay true to God and His words?